A little bit of a rant today.
I appreciate social media and online interaction. It is great for connecting like minded people from over hundreds of miles, to discover, to share the good and be apart of something bigger than ourselves. There is no greater feeling than to be understood and to be able to express ourselves without being judged.
On the downside, when things happen to people, which seems to be happening a lot in the past few weeks among my “friends” has resulted in a lot of broken hearts. And occasionally I see bitterness, sadness, anger, and sometimes hatred and it kind of sent me into a frenzy.
I’m in the broken heart camp right now too. The problem with all of this is that you can’t really “be there” for the people you’ve come to care about over the years. They open up to you, you want to be more for them, but all you can be is an ear for them. You become just some guy without face. You can’t just be like, “hey lets go for a drive, or lets go hang out.” You’re just a person on the other side of a screen for social media.
And though I think most people generally do care, there’s a negative stigma about men and women when they express themselves to someone of the opposite sex. This can go both ways without a doubt, but since I’m a guy it’s easier to see it from our side for the sake of discussion. I think people assume they don’t really care with alternative motives, and yeah that happens, but I see people hold back from saying anything because they’re afraid they’ll be labeled as a creep or stalker or just trying to get into their pants. I see posts from people time to time that I don’t really know and be like, wow that sucks, I feel terrible for them, I should say something, but I refrain from doing so because of that very reason, I don’t want to be branded or the fact that hey, maybe they honestly don’t care if I said anything.
And it’s a shame. Social media has become an outlet for spewing hate and expressing the bad side of life. We could do so much better as Humanity and be uplifting, but we let the hurt blind us and we lash out in ways that create a vicious cycle. People are full of jealously and hate seeing people rise above their demons or escape entrapment that they needed to get past. Too often people want to bring them down and keep them there with them. They want to be justified in their attitude and be in the right. I myself have struggled with this, but I feel like I’ve recognized it over the years and have greatly improved. We don’t shower those in need of praise and congratulate them in their accomplishments. There’s a reason why it’s scientifically proven that social media causes depression. And I think this is a key contributing factor.
So if you’re reading this, know that people care. If I know you, I’ve probably seen your post and I do care. Though I know I may not really be anything more than an acquaintance or a friend to you, I really do care and wish I could be there to give a positive word or just a simple gesture such as a hug.
That’s something I’ve let slip away from my old personality. I may have never been more than a friend to people, but I’ve always been willing to be there despite what someone thinks of me. Even if those people never gave a second thought about me, or spoke to me again, it was the fact that I reached out. Sometimes I think about going back into the “field” getting back into the camp scene and reach out to the youth. But I don’t know if I can yet. I’m still not sure if I’m ready to go back into the fire. I laugh because now that I think about it at this very moment, I know why people never felt more for me. Because I played the role of comforting friend, but that’s just how I am. A blessing and a curse I suppose. Don’t give up, things can get better.